Recognize violence

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Louise halimi
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The purpose of violence is to control a person or a group of people to impose their will.

There are many expressions to violence and they can all be expressed at the same time.

Physical violence is the deliberate use of force on a person to the point that they suffer bodily harm or are at risk of bodily harm. It takes many forms such as punching, kicking, slapping, hair pulling, pinching, spanking, shaking, burning, poisoning, holding underwater, choking or any other action the use of which is abusive or dangerous for a person.

Verbal abuse uses the voice to intimidate. It is not so much the tone that is important, but rather the tenor of the remarks. The victim will be insulted, mocked or threatened.

Psychological violence uses the attitude to scare or make the victim lose confidence. This involves repeating situations, humiliating and contemptuous remarks and indifference to emotional demands. This makes the victim feel incompetent and worthless. Gradually the violent person creates a grip and isolates the victim so that she depends emotionally only on him. This allows the violent person to gradually impose his will on all subjects and all situations. The victim feels blocked and in addition to the violence suffered, the risk of depression, suicide or alcoholism sets in.

Here is a non-exhaustive list of violent attitudes:

  • shout regularly
  • adopt threatening attitudes
  • use force to achieve one's ends
  • use one's physical superiority to cause fear
  • insult, humiliate, regularly denigrate a person to send them a negative image of themselves and arouse negative emotions (fear, shame, pain, etc.)
  • regularly speaking ill of the family and/or friends of a relative (spouse, partner, child) and making contact with them difficult
  • controlling, monitoring, constantly accusing a loved one (spouse, partner) and demanding proof of their whereabouts
  • prohibit a loved one (spouse, partner) from going out
  • manipulate by using psychological violence to, for example, convince the victim to cancel an outing with those around them
  • exercising disproportionate power over a loved one's expenses, blaming the person for every expense, using financial arguments to influence decisions about the relationship
  • uttering threats towards a relative (spouse, partner, child) or other people
  • getting angry and breaking objects, knocking on a door or a wall, blocking or immobilizing a relative (spouse, partner, child), attacking things the person cares about...
  • threatening to commit suicide or harm a relative (spouse, partner, child) if the latter does not do what he wishes
  • forcing spiritual or religious practices and questioning the values ​​and beliefs of a relative (spouse, partner, child)
  • read private exchanges without the consent of a loved one (spouse, partner), force the person to share access accounts or geographical position
  • force somebody to agree to unwanted sexual relations or practices
  • sharing intimate photos of someone without their consent
  • harass, stalk and follow a person
  • hitting, abusing a pet

If you have any of these behaviors you are violent. If someone around you has this type of behavior, you are a spectator or victim of a violent...
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